Comparison is a trap, it can kill your confidence.

Last Thanksgiving, we took a family vacation to Florida to visit our cousins.  We spent some time in the Keys, land of big palm trees and white sandy beaches.  A glimpse of heaven!

I was fascinated by how many Iguanas live in South Florida.  Our first day, we journeyed to the pool.  I was  ready to bask in the Florida sun,  relax, read my books, and work on my golden graham tan.  Not ten minutes into my tanning, my kids scurried over to our lounge chairs excited to share all the Iguanas they just scouted.  Suddenly a huge, thorny, green Iguana passed by my lounge chair.  All of a sudden, we realized we were surrounded by these friendly creatures,  hiding in the lush green bushes.


I grabbed my camera not wanting to miss out on this Kodak moment.  As I walked around the pool area with my son, we looked intently in the bushes and saw more Iguanas, camouflaged on bright green  tree branches.  They looked so peaceful,  relaxing and taking it easy.  As we gazed a closer look, I realized the beauty in these creatures.  From a distance, they all looked the same blending in with their habitat, but as we gained a closer look, they were quite different.  Each has its unique spots, texture, and colors.

Iguanas use their camouflage trait to “blend in” with their environment.  This is their defense mechanism against their predators. They are afraid to stand out,  as this poses a threat to their safety.

I can be just like an Iguana.  It’s easier and safer to blend in.  Blending in often causes me to compare myself to those around me.    I want the gifts, talents, things other women have.  I don’t want to be different because what I have doesn’t seem to be as valuable as what they have.  I am too afraid of showcasing my true colors… Afraid my colors don’t seem as beautiful or I compare my colors to other women.  In addition,  if I reveal my true colors, I may get rejected and this just hurts too badly.

Our continual habit of comparison becomes a trap and ultimately kills our confidence.  We get stuck in life and never live up to our full potential.

I love this analogy in the Bible.

1 Corinthians 12:14-20 (NIV)  

Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many. Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body. 

Our bodies have different organs with different functions. All are important and have to work together to function properly.  Likewise, we can’t all be the same.  God created each person with unique abilities so the human race could function properly.

Is comparison ruining a confidence within yourself?  If so, can you take a step back and acknowledge  the colorful spots that make you special, unique and different?  Celebrate your natural bent instead of “blending in” with your neighbors natural bent.    Then, ask God how you can use your natural bent, your  unique colorful spots to make a difference in the world around you.  He will show you no doubt!

Imagine how rewarding life could be if we as women learned not to be trapped by comparison.  I think we would see more of us  living a confident and contented life.