My children, our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action. (1 John 3:18)


I have to be honest, I struggle with my thoughts constantly thinking of myself. My own internal insecurities, battles, and problems.

When my thoughts are all about me, I hinder how God wants to use me. As we take inventory of our life and get real with ourselves, how often are our thoughts to benefit and love someone else?

I have a female friend in my life who is a single mom. Our lives have intersected over the years with our kid’s sports. A couple years ago, she asked me to go to lunch with her and her son after the soccer game. I was in one of those funks where I didn’t want to be around people. I was entrenched with my own mindful mess. How could I be of any use to her? I have too much to do! I knew she was struggling as a single mom, but I didn’t think I had anything positive to give to her life at this moment. But, the little voice inside of me said GO… Life is not about YOU!

I am so glad I didn’t allow my selfish thoughts to take root this day. I heeded the voice inside. It was honestly the BEST lunch ever! God knew we needed each other at this very moment in time.

Fast forward a couple years and my dear friend is now a thriving single mom. I am so proud of her! She has come a long way since that day at lunch. Life is not the “happily ever after”, but I see God restoring her heart, soul, and mind. It’s a beautiful sight to see.

She is now paying her pain forward. She understands true love like she has never understood it before. It gives her much joy to do a simple act of kindness (donate cookies for a single mom holiday dinner). We stood in my front yard yesterday both with tears in our eyes and friendship hugs sharing how God is restoring our joys and sorrows. God’s restoring moves us to give the greatest gift of all… True & Authentic Love.

As we are in the midst of a busy season to love and give, I challenge you as I challenge myself to love enough to engage. Our love to the world is not merely putting on our happy face and speaking holiday cheer. Our love to the world shows itself in action; a friendly voice at the checkout stand, giving someone else the parking spot, giving our precious time to “be” for someone else, noticing the unwanted, praying for those families who will receive our treasured gifts.

How are you going to love enough to engage?